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  They say to be completely free... You have to forgive and forget those people who have hurt you, those that have caused you pain intentionally or unintentionally, those who have messed up your life to the point of ruin, those who have made you shed tears till you felt like death was the only option. But it's never easy for people whose reality shows the trauma and pain they have been through.   Looking at those scars, those memories keep coming back nonstop. Now a loved one of yours that has been so patient and loving throughout the entire incident suddenly turns their back on you. Their suppressed anger and thoughts when they felt you were irresponsible and stupid. Their suppressed anger and thoughts when they felt you made them waste money on hospital bills. Their suppressed anger and thoughts when they can't really understand the pain and tears you have shed. Every single thought of theirs that they have hidden just explodes and all you can do is stand in shock, they remi...

  Dear readers , It’s been a very long time since we connected, my apologies I have been facing some difficult challenges since the beginning of the year but with the help of God, my ever-supportive parents, Truth and Coach Laura I have overcome these trials. I hope you enjoy this article as much as the previous ones. I have been inspired by a very strong and powerful movie I watched. Read on and I promise you won’t regret it. Now let me start by saying have you ever lost a loved one? If you have you would know how much it hurts, not necessarily physical pain but emotional pain. Our reactions differ the way I react is probably different to how you react but what brings us all together is the fact that we will never see this person again, we will never call their name again because they won’t respond. A MOMENT OF SILENCE FOR THE PUREST SOULS THAT DIDN’T DESERVE DEATH BUT ARE NO MORE. Believe me when I say it hurts even more to lose yourself, that moment when you don’t know who you a...

  My Home That's what you are to me My home It's not extravagant but where I can visualize our family together A home that is extravagant is a place where there is a lot of space. Space causes a lot of things between couples Rifts, arguments, jealousy , mistrust, cheating , communication issues and all forms of abuse can enter through that space Our home is a place where we are already complete, having the blessings of God as our roof, the walls as our barrier from accident and our floor as the solid foundation of our love. This though doesn't describe the physical appearance of our house.  This is my definition of our home.  Visions of a great future.  In a relationship, support does not mean I should not make you see the broader spectrum.  If I was a worker in your company, then I can do your biddings as it is.  But if we are partners then we have to find a middle and safe ground.  Consistency is more important than perfection.  Challenges are e...

 And so... She danced with fire on her dark breasts, With thunder and lightning above her head, Her eyes were red like crimson. She called out my name... A different one entirely,  I turned blind and deaf to my mother's thunderous call. I struck her with a four legged table, Just before father had restrained me. I wondered if this was my mother: Dressed in white, covered in native chalks,  Like the chief priestess of amadioha.  #paulopaz #2021 the ripper

I remember there was a time I was talking about marriage to my dad and all, his response was that I was too young to be thinking about marriage. To be honest,  the truth is, in the next few years our parents would be the ones asking us if we have a partner and all, so I find myself this days  imagining if I can truly tolerate a person's personalities, mistakes and utterances. To me I feel being married is being reborn because when you get married you no longer make decisions on your life abruptly and all. You live with the mindset that whatsoever decision you make can affect your spouse; as ladies we must respect the fact that the husband is the head of the house and no lady is free to take that title irrespective of feminism or "what a man can do a woman can do better".  I may be able to tolerate my husband's excesses, behaviors and choices but his family is another thing you need to put into consideration. Truly "somebody's son go find you one day" but...

I hear most people say that they stay in abusive relationships or marriages because of their children but what they don't know is that it also affects the  children. Abuse is not only when the husband or the lady beat each other, there are different kinds of abuse for example verbal abuse. Children who grow up in abusive homes tend to have thanatophobia which is also known as the fear of losing someone you love. Sometimes all the child just wants is a night free of shouts and screams. They live in a world where they can't go out in the morning and say mummy or daddy see you in the evening because of the fear that when they come back they won't be alive. Numb, Scared and Lost is what they feel in them, the same child that you say you are staying in the marriage for is the same child child that is having nightmares and fear that his or her mother can be dead over the night. Another thing is that abusive parents raise abusive children by default.. Children who get aggressive w...